There’s no doubt about it, almost every aspect of parenting is hard. I without a doubt believe the popular quote I see floating around that states “Behind every good parent is a parent that’s pretty sure they’re screwing it all up.” We are our harshest critics and don’t need the extra worry and critique that this day and age of social media brings us.
Parenting has always been difficult but I believe that this current generation has it harder than it’s ever been because of one thing: the internet. 50 years ago parents would talk to their doctors and friends and now, for some reason, we choose to turn to doctor google and social media for answers to our “problems.” The days where we would just trust our instincts seem to be dwindling down. If your child has a rash from a new detergent they’re having a reaction too, the internet will tell you it’s a type of infectious bacterial/fungal/viral rash that can only be treated by essential oils, a special $600 bottle of lotion, IV antibiotics, and of course not using that detergent anymore.
The screenshot above is one of many things I’ve run across in Facebook groups that literally made me shake my head. I obviously am not about to call people out on my blog and I don’t think that this person did anything wrong by asking. She is legitimately worried that she cleaned her tub that her son uses with bleach. She is what I think of as a victim of social media and the internet. I’m sure somewhere she saw how “dangerous” bleach is, even if used correctly, and doesn’t want to risk it. How do you think all of our tubs were cleaned when we were kids? Bleach. I was surprisingly relieved when I read the comments because they were 90% reassuring and rational. 90% is way more than I was expecting which is sad.
Another thing, we all love sharing pictures of our kids on social media. Pictures of our kids in school, pictures of our kids at the park, pictures of our kids doing crafts, and pictures of our kids in the car. On TONS of pictures in the car, I see parents posting a little disclaimer with the caption. Like “We were parked that’s why his straps are like this!” or “I fixed the chest clip right after I took this picture!” It’s great that people are so aware of carseat safety but it’s sad to me that people are almost afraid of what others are going to say about it. I saw a picture with a similar caption and literally couldn’t see anything wrong with the way the child was strapped in. Maybe that makes me ignorant, blissfully so.
I could go on and on about this topic; sharing examples of what I’ve seen but the thing is, I’m sure you’ve all seen it too. My advice is trust your gut and take everything you read and hear with an entire margarita with extra salt. Cheers mommas!
I don’t know how it happened but this little dude turns 4 today! 4 years ago I was made a mother and my life has been flipped upside down but in the best way possible. This little man is so full of energy and has be constantly laughing until tears roll down my face. He’s incredibly smart, almost too smart for his own good. He uses words like “atrocious” and “putrid”. I have no idea how he has time to learn so much because he’s always on the go and such a busy body. I love this little man more than words can describe.
Happy Birthday Everett.
We’re traveling today to Michigan to have a little celebration with both sets of his grandparents, go to my cousins wedding, and enjoy some fall in the midwest!
This post was sponsored by AstraZeneca as part of an Influencer Activation for Influence Central and all opinions expressed in my post are my own.
October is one of my absolute favorite times of the year. In Georgia, October means finally cool temperatures, fall activities, and color changes! Unfortunately, with all these added activities and weather changes usually comes some type of illness for my family. It feels like every single fall, the kids come down with something. October also happens to be National RSV awareness month so there’s no better time to talk about this virus!
I chose to participate in this campaign because I have a personal connection to this ugly virus. Both of my children had RSV as babies; neither were very severe cases and did not require hospitalization. Regardless, I know how nasty RSV can be and if I can help even one person prevent their baby from getting it or help them to recognize the symptoms early, then I’ve done my job.
What is RSV?
RSV is also known as Respiratory Syncytial Virus. It’s an extremely common and contagious virus that mainly effects children under the age of two. It’s so common, that nearly 100% of infants will come in contact with it by their second birthday! With that being said, I was amazed when my oldest son was diagnosed with it and I had never even heard of it! How is it possible that I wasn’t aware of something that is the leading cause of hospitalization of children under the age of one? It’s time to spread the knowledge and protect those little lungs!
What are the symptoms?
Be on the lookout for cold and flu like symptoms!
Fever (Especially over 100.4 [rectally] in children under 3 months)
Blueish color around the mouth and fingernails
Fast or troubled breathing
What are the risk factors?
The most common time of year for RSV is November through March so this is the time that parents need to be on high alert. Unfortunately, premature babies (before 35 weeks) are more likely to develop severe forms of the virus. They don’t receive as many antibodies in utero to help their bodies fight and they often have underdeveloped lungs that have narrow and fragile airways.
How can you prevent RSV?
Of course, as parents we always want to prevent our children from any kind of harm. RSV has no specific cure so prevention is key! It’s very much like preventing any other virus which includes proper hygiene and sanitation techniques.
Writing this post completely brought me back to how miserable my kids were when they had RSV. Like I mentioned above, they had “very mild” cases which didn’t require any hospitalization. My son had it when he was about 18 months and my daughter about 15 months. They both had terrible cold symptoms and were completely not themselves.
That’s a picture of Everett when he was out for the count. It was days upon days of just laying around, pushing fluids, and trying to recover. I can’t even imagine what it would have been like had it been worse; unfortunately for many it is a lot worse.
Do your part this cold season! Help spread the word on RSV and make sure you’re using proper hygiene. If you or your child is experiencing symptoms, stay in! To learn more about RSV please visit the RSV website.
The other night while browsing Facebook, I noticed a thread about “the strangest things you’ve bought on Etsy.” Among tons of completely off the wall things there was a comment about a tarot card reading. I always had the stereotypical image in my head of what a tarot card reading would be like. You know, you walk into a dark room smelling strongly of pachouli and see a woman in full gypsy like dress with a crystal ball in front of her. Well, it’s 2016 and you can get a reading on the internet now.
I couldn’t help myself, I just had to try it.
I contacted Tasha with Tarot Like It Is on Etsy to go ahead and give it a whirl. It was simple. I messaged her to tell her it was my first reading and sent her a picture of myself. She explained the process a little bit and said she would do my reading the following day and send me a message.
Hey Erin! I’m going to do your reading now. I really am excited ha. With my readings I personally believe I am connecting to your spirit guide through the cards. Some don’t believe that but I personally do and it takes a LOAD of weight off my own shoulders. 🙂
So when I refer to “them” or “they” that’s what I’m referring to.
So with this reading I’m going to shuffle and just allow them to give your four messages and see what they have to say to you.
The first card I drew is the emperor. Okay so generally what this card talks about is spirit is talking about you listening to your mind over your heart a little bit more. They’re saying you don’t always want to do it but sometimes you just have to and it makes for some of the best decisions in life. The logical part of your brain is what’s going to allow you more self control and bring more of the focus that you’re needing now. Also though this can talk about a literal man in your life, normally older, almost a fatherly energy who really has your back right now. He would be in your life to teach you have to have a calmness and a sense of order in your life. This shows him as a valuable asset to you and if not a literal person just the energy that you’re needing to really get things accomplished right now.
The second card I drew is the page of wands. Again spirit is talking about the energy of easy distraction so it appears it’s a theme in this spread so it should be a theme going on for you right now in your current life. However, I feel they’re also saying you’re warm and ambitious even if you don’t know the exact steps to get you to where you want to be. With this card spirit is encouraging you to follow a dream you may have thought of in the past. That would lead you to new adventures both for body and spirit. I see it bringing you a lot of peace and fulfillment. This could also be a dream you’re currently working on but had been imagined in the past. This is just a positive affirmation that they’re agreeing with you it is something great for you to do. Spirit is saying now is a creative time for you and they WANT you to dream and to hope and believe what the future can hold for you.
The third card I drew is the heirophant. This card can represent a drive to find your higher truth. To create harmony in your life and find balance where you may have been lacking in the past. This could be the project the second card said or it could be more metaphorical and in your head. That being said – this says you still struggle with the right thing to do sometimes or to know exactly what you’re supposed to do. They’re saying you do what is “right” for you. This card represents personal inner drive and the want to need to grow right now in some way. Again I feel this is there way of validating their approval.
The fourth and final card I drew is the nine of swords. The final message spirit wants to give to you – they want to address anxiety. First thing – they’re saying to pay attention to your breathing and it can bring more calm into your life. They’re asking you to really try and understand what you’re worried about or where these fears and worries are coming from. Are they things that are truly likely to come to pass or are you worrying unnecessarily about things? They want you to see yourself clearly in the roles of your life. Try not to blame others when something is not their fault and don’t allow them to place blame on your shoulders as well when things are not your fault. If you can be logical *maybe what the first card is getting at* and you can see with clear eyes – you can unload some of the anxiety you feel. If there’s nothing you can do about a situation basically – just let it go. The worries and the fears. This card is also saying now is a time to be cautious about self-medicating in any way. Had to throw in that last bit just in case!
My Interpretation and Reaction:
I had a blast reading what she had to say. Personally, even if I didn’t want to take it seriously, it was worth the small fee for entertainment purposes. Although, a lot of it is extremely relevant to my life.
I definitely have a tendency to make decisions based on my heart rather than logic. I’m not sure who the “fatherly” figure she talked about is but she’s right on with the fact that I need calmness and a sense of order in my life. I can’t get anything done if things are out of sorts and I need order to focus.
Distraction can be a huge problem for me. I’m currently writing this post and noticed my bed was a mess and had to get up and fix it in order to continue to focus on what I was doing. It’s hard to have my 100% attention on anything because of my toddlers so distraction is becoming a constant and sometimes it’s hard to adjust to that. I also have a pretty good idea of what that creative dream that the second card talks about is.
I’m always wanting a little bit more for myself. I always want to do something else or take steps to be the best person I possibly can. The third card make me feel like that isn’t a bad thing, it’s ambitious, and that’s awesome.
The fourth card really hit home for me! I’ve been overly anxious lately for what feels like no reason at all. It reminded me that I really can’t sweat the small stuff and just need to let things be. I can’t control everything so there is no use being anxious over that.
So, I had tons of fun with my first Tarot card reading and took a lot away from it! I would honestly recommend Tasha to anyone who has an open mind or wants to have a little bit of fun! You can view her Etsy page here.
*Note: I was not solicited to do this post, it’s just a post based on my personal experiences.
My daughter is a Sharpie addict.
She is a Sharpie thief and / or hoarder.
Aria is just over two years old and can’t control herself when there is any type of marker around. She colors so nice on paper with crayons but when theres a marker she has to mark every single thing she can find. I have to use Sharpies at work and I use them really often in my paper planning stuff. So, there is nothing I can do about them being in the house. I figured that putting them up on a shelf, on the kitchen counter, or even on my tallest dresser in my room was enough. I was wrong.
I’d like to say that this was the first time that anything like this happened but that would be a lie. This is about the 7th time. Each time it happens I move the markers to a different spot or hide them but somehow she finds another marker and it happens all over again. I’m convinced she has a stash hidden somewhere that I’m not aware of.
I went to the kitchen to make myself a bagel. It takes about 3 minutes for the bagel to toast and another minute to put the cream cheese on it. In 4 minutes she found a sharpie and colored my planner, her hands, her feet, my desk, my desk chair, my brand new computer, and her face. I can’t even you guys.
I’m a weirdo about my planner so as soon as this happened… I knew I was doing absolutely nothing Monday- Wednesday that week.
Now you want to know to get sharpie out of stuff and off your child?
You throw out everything or live with the annoying black marks.
You let your child walk around looking like a damn zebra and live in their stripes.
Potty training is one of those times in raising your children that can be quite frustrating and stressful. Sometimes what works for one child isn’t going to work for the next and it can be a complete trial and error type of situation. It can be hard on the child and hard on the parent when things aren’t going exactly how you want them too. Lets face it, nothing in parenting is considered easy but Pampers Easy Ups are here to help things go as smooth as possible!
My oldest son is about to be 4 years old. I tried potty training him when he was just over two because he was giving me tons of signs that he was ready for that adventure. He wasn’t. It was days of accidents, frustration, and stress. I decided to wait a while for him to flat out tell me he was ready and always gave him the option to go on the potty. Finally, one day it just clicked. I rewarded him with stickers and it was pretty smooth sailing. Except for nighttime. Here we are at almost 4 years old with no signs of being ready to get up in the middle of the night for potty breaks. He was getting so upset when I’d put another brand of pull up on him at night because he “wasn’t a baby and didn’t want to wear a diaper.” I’m so thankful that we’ve found Pampers Easy Ups because they really do feel like underwear and there is so much less complaining!
Now, Aria, my youngest just turned two in June. She’s a little more ready than he was at her age. I’m not sure if it’s the fact that she’s a girl or because she watches her big brother go but we’re introducing the potty and she’s a lot more interested. She was so excited to wear her “Dora” undies!
Like I mentioned above, they really do feel like underwear! They have an extremely soft waistband that doesn’t dig into the skin. Both my kids have no problems pulling them up or down by themselves either which is great for their independence. They also hold up to accidents which is extremely important to me. No more washing sheets every morning or changing outfits when there is a slip up!
Potty Training Tips from Dr. Tanya Altmann
Dr. Altmann is a pediatrician and a mom to three of her own children. She has some great tips on the potty training process! I’ve tried quite a few of these with great success and plan to implement more into the routine with Aria as we continue on this journey.
Get your child excited about wearing underwear!
Look for signs that your child is ready.
Lead by example. [I know it can be awkward to have your child in the bathroom with you and sometimes we need some peace but they really do learn by example!]
Be positive and make it fun! [stickers worked so well here!]
Why Should You Choose Pampers Easy Ups in the Potty Training Process?
They really do feel like real underwear but still provide excellent protection against the dreaded leak! I really think that if the pull on protection a child is using feels like a diaper than they’re going to treat it like a diaper!
They come in such adorable patterns that children actually want to wear! They feature Thomas the Train Engine™, Dora the Explorer™, and now Hello Kitty™.
They are really easy for little hands to pull up and down! I was so pleasantly surprised when I saw how independent both of my kids were in them!
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LuLaRoe has been popping up on my newsfeed for the longest time. I’ve never joined a group, tried anything on, or purchased anything. I really have no idea why I haven’t. I’ve seen people talk about the brand and even laugh about their “addiction” to the clothing. Maybe I subconsciously didn’t want to fall in love with yet another thing that was going to steal all my money because my self control when it comes to to shopping isn’t the greatest. Well, I’m screwed because I’m now in love with LuLaRoe.
Amanda Koss is a girl from my hometown that is also a consultant. I’ve been watching her business from afar and she’s been doing the same with my blog. We decided to just go ahead and partner up. I received all items in this blog post in exchange for promotion but in no way is that going to sway my opinions about said items.
She runs a Facebook group that has a “pop up” sale every Wednesday night at 8pm. I had way too much fun grabbing a large glass of wine and shopping from my couch. She also has such an extensive stock! I’m not sure how all the other consultants do it but Amanda had what seemed like hundreds of things up in every different size at her sale.
I am just blown away at how comfortable and versatile every single piece of LuLaRoe clothing I received is! I can style almost everything to go from day to night or from taking the toddler to school to a night out. I know the brand prides themselves on comfort but I can’t even explain how accurate that is in words. I look extremely put together but I feel like I’m wearing pajamas. Win!
This is the maxi skirt. I adore the print and it’s incredibly soft. I can match it with almost any color top I have! I adore vests this season so I had to go with that.
Say hello to the Cassie skirt! It’s a pencil skirt that I can actually move in. I felt unbelievably sexy in it but could totally dress it down as well. This is definitely one of my new favorite pieces in my wardrobe.
Oh the Randy top. This pattern is so my style and it’s probably the most put together I’ve looked in a teeshirt. I, without a doubt, need to add more of these to my lineup.
The Nicole dress is so much cuter on then you’ll ever see it on a hanger. I went ahead and got the “little black dress” style so that I can style it in so many different ways. This look is definitely a night out with the husband sans kids.
Of course I got a pair of the infamous butter soft leggings. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to wear another brand of leggings again. These fit so much better than anything else I’ve ever tried which is amazing since they’re one size. The top has a thicker band which avoids the material cutting into you thus causing the dreaded “muffin top.” I’m pretty thin but the muffin top struggle was still real in a lot of my old leggings.
IRMA! I had to include this picture in the post because this is pretty much my “mom stance” most of the day. The face is basically screaming “Oh no kids, not again!” This tee is very loose fitting so why I normally wear a S-M shirt, I got it in an XS. It still has plenty of room to breathe! It’s perfect for a day spent running after toddlers.
Last but certainly not least is the Azure skirt. My little photo prop told me how beautiful I looked and I totally felt it! The skirt can be worn so many different ways but I choose to wear it high waisted. I’ve even seen it worn as a shirt with a belt which is something that I’m going to have to try.
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Everett started school (Pre-K) a few weeks back. In fact, this week will only be his third full week. In that short amount of time he’s managed to bring home all of the germs.
I knew when my kids started going to school and being around other children that they would wind up with different illnesses. I expected it. What I didn’t expect was it to happen the first week and I sure as hell didn’t expect for it to take me out.
He came home from school one day with a slight fever. The fever was gone in just a couple of hours and then he had a runny nose for the next two days. That was it. He was back to being full speed ahead and didn’t even have to miss school or soccer practice. Once he was better Aria got it. She had a fever for a little longer and a runny nose for a few extra days but it wasn’t anything too bad.
Then I got it. It started as a horrific sore throat on Thursday and Friday. Then it decided to move to my nose on Saturday. By Sunday, I could hardly get off the couch. Here we are on Monday and it feels like an elephant is sitting on my chest. The things I’m coughing up are things of nightmares.
It’s just amazing how these things manifest in children vs. adults. It brings me back to last year when Hand Foot Mouth [click here to read about that disaster] ran through our house. My kids were better in a few short days and I had it for almost 10. I guess it’s better it’s me than it is them but dammit, I have things to do! I know this is only the beginning my kid crud journey; My immune system better step it up a notch or seven.
I always figured with kids you’d have your “good” days and your “bad” days. While that’s often the case in the general sense, I never realized how those highs and lows were going to change minute by minute.
I have two toddlers. It’s obviously not going to be peaches and ice-cream all the time around my house. In fact, most of the time it’s not. Someone is whining for something, someone can’t find a toy, or someones upset about something they lost 6 months ago. That’s just the way it is. It’s just amazing how amazing things can be going and how quickly they can turn at the drop of a hat.
It was a school day and I woke both kids up. I value sleep as much as they do so waking them up was unheard of until Everett started school. We’re working on getting into the routine but some days are a complete struggle. This particular day, they work up without issues, got dressed, teeth brushed, and ate breakfast without one single complaint. They even kept quiet while their dad slept! [he’s on an overnight shift so this is impossible some days] We got to school on time and the entire way there Everett talked to me about how good he was going to be and how he promised me he was going to listen to his teachers. 4 hours later I go to pick him up and he’s in the time out chair. First offense was poking and the second was putting his shoes in someones face. Seriously? Well, I had to listen to him scream about me taking away the iPad for the next 45 minutes. He wakes up from a short nap after we got home and never mentioned it again.
Then the evening rolled around and I made dinner as usual. I always try to offer my picky kids whatever the adults are eating because 1) I want them to eat well and try new things and 2) it’s a total pain in the ass to make them something separate to eat. I made a breakfast bake with sausage and eggs. They absolutely devoured their entire servings. BOTH of them.
I set them down and take off Aria’s diaper for about two seconds while I put their dishes into the sink. I come back and she had run into the playroom, pooped on the floor, and was playing in it. Fighting the instinct to vomit (I don’t want to clean that too) I throw her into the shower. I went from an “awww! I’m so glad you guys ate all your dinners and behaved at the table” to trying to make sure all the pieces of poop go down my shower drain in about 4 minutes flat.
Finally, all the poop is cleaned up, the kitchen mess is in order, and the kids are almost ready for bed. Everett requests to watch the Little Mermaid before bed and I allow it. I’m sitting there snuggling an overtired Aria and Everett says to me “Ariel is beautiful just like you mama.” Seriously, melt.
It’s days like today that really show me what an emotional rollercoaster that parenting is. One minute your child does the sweetest thing on the planet or behaves amazingly and the next minute their playing in their own poop or shoving their shoes in another kids face at school. This is what I call the daily high and low struggle with parenting.
My 2 year old daughter is getting to the age where she’s starting to take a liking to particular types of toys. Completely uninfluenced by me, she’s gravitates towards cute stuffed animals and baby dolls. She loves her a good superhero but she’s way more into what you may call the “girly” types of toys. The older she gets, the more toys that she prefers accumulate in the playroom.
This in turn has led my 3.5 year old son to gain an interest in these particular type of toys. My son plays with “girl” toys.
I’m almost 99% sure his fondness of these toys is because he knows that they’re his sisters and he can’t handle sharing. He’s awful at sharing anything with her. When I tell him he can’t take something away from her, that’s the first thing that he wants to do. He’s a typical defiant toddler like that.
Sometimes, he’ll pick up a doll and be playing “house” with it when Aria is sleeping. It’s actually adorable the way he just mimics what he sees going on in his world around him. He will put the baby to bed, pretend to feed her, and change her diaper. These are all things he sees me doing with his sister. Imitation is the highest form of flattery and if this type of roll play is teaching him about the importance of parents and family life … then who am I to stop it?
I just don’t understand what a parent would do that is against their sons playing with “girl” toys or their daughters playing with “boy” toys. Would those parents take away the toy and explain to their child that they are playing with a toy that is not for them because of their gender? That is, bottom line, not what I want to teach my kids. It’s practically impossible for me to separate the toys and stop my kids from playing with whatever is in the playroom. I’m not about to battle all day long over something that isn’t important to our family.
So, I let my son play with “girl” toys. I let my kids walk around the house with babies in strollers and pretend to be parents to those dolls. As long as they’re playing nice, there is no foul play in my mind. He’s usually pretending the stroller is a race car and trying to fill it with gas before he zooms off and tells the baby to “hold on tight because it’s going to be a bumpy ride.”